Dating old men
Feel free to be yourself around him, do all the childish things you usually do, because that is what got his attention in the first place.It is true, he might not always be up for every suggestion you have about doing new and spontaneous things that get him out of the everyday life, but that doesn’t mean you should stop suggesting.Most probably the first thing you need to understand when dating an older man is that there will always be a difference in what both of you expect from each other.Since he is a lot older than you, it might happen that he is expecting a lot more mature behavior from you, as you are expecting a lot more childish behavior from him.Prepare yourself for a tidal-wave of concern trolling.I’ve found that the best comeback for the inevitable ‘But he’s so much older than you!When it comes to dating a guy who is older and who already has the clear image of what he wants from life, there are some new dilemmas that you might encounter; new moments that might come up you didn’t count on and you now have to deal with.Just remember that different mindset comes with ages and that it takes time for both of you to get accustomed to one another and the way you see things.
Your date will look at you incredulously when you suggest queueing for a glorified Wimpy, then mispronounce ‘chorizo’ just like your dad does when you order. You will sometimes be mistaken for father and daughter when you’re out and about.Neither of those is wrong, but be understanding of his lifestyle and try to meet him half way.He won’t always have the time to go out and have fun with you or hang out on a rock concert up to 5 AM, because he has to work and make money to pay for all the bills.This is embarrassing, though less so for you than it is for those doing the mistaking.Gender politics: you win some, you lose some Your beloved will have come of age in the 1970s or 1980s. Yes, middle-aged men are less keen on gymnastics than their twentysomething counterparts, but as anyone who’s ever done their back in half way through will tell you, this is by no means a bad thing. Your plus-one will probably have an ex-wife (or two), and children who might not be much younger than you. Handle meetings as you would any other tricky social situation by tanking up on wine beforehand.